Twin Flames: Walking Through Your Cave of Fear And Why It Might Be Worth It.

On February 17th, 2017, and yes, I remember the date because I checked my old journals, I sat crying on a park bench. My friend eventually came to pick me up and offer support, but I was wailing, feeling like my soul was being torn from my body. Why? Well, it was the moment I officially acknowledged that I was in Twin Flame separation, and my Twin Flame was with another person, commonly referred to as a "third party" on the internet. This may sound dramatic, perhaps even delusional to some of you, but I was genuinely heartbroken. 

What I didn't know at the time was that I was confronting my Cave of Fear on the Twin Flame Journey. You see, one of my greatest fears, though I wasn't entirely aware of it then, was rejection and betrayal. I feared giving my Love to someone only for it to lead to nowhere. This fear had roots in an earlier relationship during my adolescence, and I didn't realize how deeply I had internalized that experience as the impending truth of what would happen in my next relationship.

When I delved deeper into understanding the Twin Flame Journey, I realized it was the romantic relationship I had always sought in my heart. And yet, I couldn't comprehend why I felt so utterly rejected and heartbroken. That night, I almost gave up, wanting to leave it all behind. What could be worth this? But I knew if I just shut my intuition, my feelings, down now…I would always wonder. That part of me that felt  Divine Love would always remain a question…I’d have to ignore. I was aware enough to recognize that the pain of that night wouldn't dissipate unless I confronted and healed it. I couldn’t give up, because I couldn’t give up on myself.

Healing involves bringing Love to a place within yourself where you previously thought Love couldn't exist. The challenge was that, at that time, I didn't believe I had the power to do it.

This is what the Twin Flame Journey does – it doesn't leave you crying on a park bench; it asks you to confront the places where you've been hurt and where you've stopped believing in Love. It challenges you to bring Love to those places. This is why many of us encounter such intense emotions on the Twin Flame Journey. Somewhere in your consciousness, just as it once was in mine, you believed that those scary feelings were more powerful than Love. Now, you're asked to do the opposite: empower yourself and Love yourself in a place where you never allowed Love before.

The Cave of Fear on the Twin Flame journey serves as the ultimate barrier to Union. It's a core place driving the separation experience between you and your twin flame.

You know you're in the Cave of Fear when you feel like this is the scariest thing you could be going through.It's when you feel like everything is falling apart. That's when you're navigating your Cave of Fear.

The moment you feel like everything is crumbling is the moment you're asked to have enough faith to walk through it and put yourself back together with Love. The only thing that can truly fall apart is what is not loving – ego separation. It's the only thing that can die because on the other side of the Cave of Fear, you'll always find light. The shadow cast by the fear is far greater than the reality of the situation.

You might be wondering why anyone would choose to go through this, why anyone would willingly confront their dark inner spaces. I'll be honest; it's not for everyone. If it's not something you genuinely desire, that's okay. It's your choice. The Twin Flame journey, with its path through the Cave of Fear, might not be worth it for you at this moment. Everything moves towards Love, so there is a point in your eternal existence where…you decide it is for you. If that’s not now though, that’s okay. 

But for some of us, it's worth it because the peace and Love we find on the other side of that cave are worth walking through the fear. It feels better to conquer the fear than to cower to it. It feels more loving to bring light to the darkness than to remain in hiding.

And it is worth noting, you won't have a sustainable relationship with your Twin Flamewithout facing your Cave of Fear and bringing light there. Twin Flames are built on Love, not numbness and avoidance. 

So, how can you approach the one place you've been avoiding, the place you've numbed out to because you've been trying to survive without feeling the pain it holds?

Maybe there's trauma there, perhaps it's a deep-seated rejection, or an abandonment wound. But ultimately, it's the one thing you've been reluctant to confront, and that's what you must address.

You can spend your days loving yourself and spreading Love and light, but if you don't address that one place where you've never been willing to go before, you won't have a sustainable Twin Flamerelationship.

By "sustainable," I mean a relationship built with your ascension in mind. A healthy relationship where you are always partnering as you go deeper into Love.

In short, your Cave of Fear is the place you've been avoiding. Face it, see yourself, and Love yourself there.

You can approach your Cave of Fear with compassion.

It's not all right now or nothing; sometimes there are layers to peel back, a divine order to your healing and Twin Flame Journey. You can heal in stages, preparing to confront your Cave of Fear with compassion, as I did. While I didn't realize I was in my Cave of Fear on that park bench, the pain highlighted the need for change. I embarked on a journey of inner and healing work to address not just my separation from my Twin Flamebut, more importantly, my separation from myself and my resistance to embrace my true self.

You can choose to make your journey compassionate, a choice I encourage, as opting for a path filled with pain as your primary teacher can be uncomfortable and unsustainable. As you heal long-buried emotions and wounds, the path to self-compassion will lead you through your Cave of Fear.

If you have chosen Love at the core of your being, you will inevitably conquer that Cave of Fear as you've decided to live in a reality of Love, not fear.

The Cave of Fear is where you believe fear is the ultimate reality, and Love is not real.

To traverse your Cave of Fear, start by acknowledging precisely what it is.

Take responsibility for your experience. You have power in your reality, the ability to shape your world and choose who you are and what you allow into your life. You can decide how you want to feel each day by cultivating your reality with your vibration. In that place of fear, replace it with Unconditional Love.

Unconditional Love will always reveal the truth of the situation.

When I walked through my Cave of Fear, which didn't happen on that park bench but began there, I discovered I wasn't a victim of rejection or abandonment. Instead, I was someone who had been confused, believing that the power to receive Love existed outside of me rather than within. I realized that the person I should give all my Love to is me. But I had to confront my Cave of Fear to reach this profound realization in my heart. 

If you're not interested in personal growth, spiritual growth, ascension, or true Love, this may not be for you.

However, if you genuinely desire to Love yourself, truly and deeply. If you desire to grow and ascend, not in the sense of yeeting off the planet, but just by having a reality of Love over fear.  If you desire any of that, then it's worth facing your Cave of Fear.

The depth of peace and Love waiting for you on the other side is indescribable, and the journey will inevitably bring your Twin Flame to you as well. When you're truly walking through your Cave of Fear each time it surfaces, you'll come to realize that the ultimate prize is you. You are your own prize, and loving yourself is enough. Realizing you are enough….opens you to receiving even more

So, what do you think?  Is it worth it for you?